Learning to love your imperfections

Your imperfections aren’t just flaws about you, they make you who you are today because without them you wouldn’t be where you are now. If someone judges you based on one of your imperfections don’t take it as a negative take it as they are jealous of you because if they can take time out of their day to make fun of you, then there must be a jealous bone in their body which is making them be so horrible to you.

I think from a teenagers perspective, there are more bullies around these days then there was when say my parents were children in the ’80s. As people of the younger generation we have it so difficult because we have peer pressure, self-pressure, academic pressure and more to deal with. So when you have to deal with a bully it’s bloody hard to just ignore it I definitely know that.

People will say to you “just get thick skin” it shouldn’t have to be like that !! We shouldn’t have to just ignore it or grow thicker skin which will make us more use to it. It isn’t something you can get use to. It sticks with you for a very long time depending on the type of person you are.

For example, me, if someone says something about me I’m the type of person who doesn’t necessarily forget about what someone has said about me in the past. People who have previously bullied me in school or in college or just generally through life I can still remember all of what they have said it’s like a mental scar is how I think of it as.

Should it be like this?

Absolutely not if you say different then that’s absolutely fine because that’s your opinion but as individuals, we shouldn’t have to remember what bullies have said to us out of hate and despite we should all be able to live our own lives through the path that we have chosen without others bullying us for that.

We are taught to be more embarrassed or ashamed of our imperfections instead of actually feeling happy and comfortable in our bodies. This means we are constantly denying we have imperfections and running away from the truth even though we all know that we have them.

There is not one single person in the world who is ‘perfect’ because there is no ‘perfect’ body or ‘perfect’ person, we all have imperfections, we all make mistakes and we are all different. The phrase ‘I’m perfect’ should not even be used because no one is perfect.

Examples of imperfections-

Each person’s imperfections and flaws come in different ways it might be you’ve got –

• Freckles – Freckles are actually very common these days and they’ve actually become ‘trendy’.

• Dimples – I personally think that dimples are actually cute, but not everyone does and that’s absolutely fine but don’t be ashamed of them they make you beautiful.

• Overweight / Underweight – Your weight is your weight I’ve always struggled with being overweight and I use to be embarrassed but now I don’t care really I am who I am and no one is going to change me other than me. Be proud of your body !!

• Gaps in your teeth – You might have ‘imperfect teeth’ I’ll admit I do I had the chose if I wanted brasses and I chose not to. It’s your mouth you can do whatever you want to with it. We see all of these celebrities changing their teeth but why it’s a part of our body we are born with. If they are affecting you I understand if you need help with them.

• Eyes – You May have to wear glasses which a lot of people do wear it’s become common now shall I say so don’t be embarrassed if you have to wear glasses.

• Cellulite – If you have Cellulite here is a statistic which might make you feel better if you have it, 90 per cent of people have some form of cellulite. You can have cellulite at any age it doesn’t matter your age. We can all have it at some stage of our lives.

• Stretch marks – Anyone can have stretch marks I have I’ll openly admit it I use to absolutely hate it because I thought it labelled me as ‘big’ but it definitely doesn’t it makes you beautiful and I have now accepted that. You can have stretch marks anywhere if it’s your stomach, breasts, arms or bottom. Don’t hate it embrace it !!

• Scars – You definitely shouldn’t be ashamed of your scars, they show the battles you have had to conquer and the demons you have had to face. It also shows your still here today and you’ve fought to be here.

• Body hair – We all have body hair somewhere on our bodies so don’t be embarrassed by it, you could have it on your arms, legs, face anywhere it doesn’t matter.

All of these things make you BEAUTIFUL !!

 

“One of the basic rules of the universe is that nothing is perfect. Perfection simply doesn’t exist…..Without imperfection, neither you nor I would exist”
― Stephen Hawking

 

But all of these things plus more MAKE YOU YOU !! So please stop hiding your imperfections and flaws and embrace them because we should be proud of them because they are a part of our bodies what make them ours !!

Are you proud of your imperfections? Do you struggle with your imperfections?

Did you see my last post where I talked about moving onto 2020 🎉

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