Meaning of family

My definition of what family means –

I remember when I was in school and we would get asked ‘what is the meaning of family’ and we would get told what the actual definition of family is and all of the students in the classroom would have a discussion on the meaning and everyone would have their own interpretations on what family means.

It wasn’t until now that I’m a lot maturer that I have realised what the actual meaning of family is. Family to me is having someone there to support and love you through the tough times and the good times, to be loyal to you and be there for each other. It doesn’t matter if they are related to you or not they can still be classed as family.

We could argue about what the ‘actual’ definition of family is for ages but I don’t see the point in that because all of that doesn’t matter, all that matters is that you have a family who is like I said above are there to support you and love you through the good and bad.

I know that there are so many people all around the world who don’t have a supportive family and I find that heartbreaking because I wouldn’t know what I would do without mine. I don’t want to go on a huge deal about what my family means to me because I know that so many people really struggle without a family and that is truly horrible.

Learning about family in school –

When I was in high school I studied sociology which means you study human society and what society means. In the two years that I studied sociology at school, I learned a huge amount about family and the different types of families that there are. I honestly didn’t realise that there were so many different family types which I found so interesting.

Each different family would have there own structure, own set of values and norms but at the end of it, they were still a family. It doesn’t matter if it’s a nuclear family ( a mom and dad and children) or a single-parent family ( either a mom or dad and children) they are still a family at the end of it.

These are some of the different types of families that there are –

  • Cereal packet family/nuclear family – consists of a mom, dad and child/children.
  • Single parent family – consists of either a mom or dad and child/children.
  • Extended family – consists of either two or three people who are related in some way who live in the same household.
  • Childless family – consists of just adults no children.
  • Same-sex family – consisting of same-sex mom or dad and children.

If you ever want me to talk about some of the lessons I learnt in school or college let me know. I learnt a huge amount about sociology, psychology and ICT

We live in a society which has now come more accepting of the different types of families that there are if you look back at 1950’s a lot of these family types were not heard of or if they were they forbidden. So to live in an era where we accept different families it’s amazing.

Statistics about the different family structures https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/birthsdeathsandmarriages/families/bulletins/familiesandhouseholds/2019

Film –

Tonight (Saturday night) I was watching a film with my family, called Instant family it made me cry so much I was in floods of tears, it was such a heartwarming and amazing film I definitely recommend it. I don’t want to ruin it for anyone though I’m going to talk about it a tiny bit.

This film is about a couple who had not had any children yet but wanted children, who looked at the route of fostering and adopting children (I’ll leave it there). I actually knew quite a bit about adopting/fostering because my mom works in a special need school where a lot of the children are fostered or adopted.

So when we started to watch this film it made me think of these children so much, a lot of children who are either fostered or adoptive don’t feel like they fit in or don’t feel like they should be given another opportunity or even they are scared to trust someone again.

This film gave a brilliant glimpse into what it is like for the children and for the people who are adopting/fostering.

Definitely recommend it !!

What family means to me –

Family is the most important thing to me in my whole entire life, my parents are the ones who brought me into this world, who brought me up gave me the best opportunities that they could.

So to anyone who might not a have a family or who do but don’t get along with them or even have lost them, my heart is with you. Doing sociology in school and watching this film tonight put life into perspective for me tonight and made me realise we don’t all live with ‘traditional’ family or some of us don’t have one but that is perfectly found because we all have each other.

Sorry for such a soppy blog post after watching that film I felt inspired and felt like I needed to write something on the topic of family.

Child and mom

If anyone ever needs someone to talk please don’t hesitate to email, DM or inbox me if I could help anyone while they are struggling I would be happy too 💗

Are family important to you ?

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25 thoughts on “Meaning of family

  1. What an incredibly enlightening and thought provoking post! My definition of family has changed throughout the years as my family altered through my parents divorce and remarriage. Then as I set up my own cereal packet family. This post really made me think, thank you xxx

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  2. My definition of family changed dramatically when I moved quite far away from mine, even the smallest of activity with them now is literally everything to me as a I only see them a few times a year x

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  3. This was beautiful! Families are so different. And it breaks my heart that so many people came from broken homes. I’m very blessed by the family I have; not many had that.
    I had heard others talk highly of that movie and I want to watch it!

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  4. Because I have BPD which is largely based on attachment problems, family has never really meant anything to me. I always considered my mother to be someone I lived with like a house mate, rather than a proper family member.

    I have extreme difficulties with maintaining romantic relationships, although I’ve been lucky with my current partner who goes above and beyond with their support and understanding, which is the only reason my current relationship some how manages to work.

    But because of my issues, I worry that when/if we have children, I won’t be able to form a proper attachment to them either.

    One thing I’ve always thought throughout my life, family isn’t who your blood related to, real family are the ones you choose to be in your life. I just wish I was better at forming and maintaining attachments

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    • It’s definitely not your fault that you struggle to have relationships with the people who are close to you. It’s so good that you’ve got a partner who understands you and your BPD though I bet that helps a lot. Thankyou for reading & commenting x

      Charlotte 💗

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  5. I think the word family has definitely changed over the last few years. It’s gone from the whole Mum, Dad and kids to friends, communities and more. My family isn’t exactly the closest but I am trying to connect myself more with mine. Great post as always, hun!

    Daisy xoxo | TheDeeWhoLived

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