10 lessons I have learnt in 19 years

We’re coming up to the end of the year once again this year has completely flown by it only feels like the start of the year was yesterday. This week I am turning 19 yeah you heard that correctly 19 it’s scary right!

As it’s coming up to my 19th birthday I wanted to write a blog on things I’ve learnt in my 18 years of life and some lessons I’ve learnt. I think even though I’m only 18 when I upload this post that I’ve actually learnt a fair few lessons through my life through the good and the bad.

Lessons I’ve learnt in 19 years –

1. Learning from your mistakes

There are so many different things throughout my life I could have done better or differently and I could dwell on all of the things that I’ve done wrong but now I’m a lot older and guess maturer I don’t see it like that. The way I think of it as is you can’t change the things in the past you can only learn from your mistakes and move on from them because that’s the way you learn.

2. Don’t do things to please others, do something because you want to!

This is definitely a lesson I have learnt quite a few times and to be honest I’m still in the process of learning it. Don’t do something because you are scared of what someone else will think of you do it because you want to. There is no point spending your whole life doing things to please others because it will just make you miserable.

3. Don’t stay doing something if it makes you miserable and unhappy

This is probably one of the main lessons I have learnt this year, and the lesson I’ve learnt which has made the most difference in my life this year. I learnt this lesson when I was at college because I was doing a college course which I was unhappy doing and I think I was only doing it because I was scared of being judged. But I learnt that I’ve got to do what I want to do and stop pleasing others.

4. Stop doing things to please others

This one is very similar to the one above, over the years I have learnt that I need to start doing things to please myself and not do things to just pleasing others because at the end of the day my feelings matter too.

5. Don’t stress about the things which you can’t control

I think this has been one of my weaknesses for many years, stressing about things which I can’t possibly control. I try to think that I can to help but actually all it does it make you stress out more. So just let things be.

6. We all make mistakes but don’t dwell on them, learn from them and move on

I think we’re all guilty of this one because we all make mistakes it is inevitable because otherwise, we do not learn. Instead of dwelling on your mistakes for ages, learn from them and take note and move on.

7. We are all individual so stop comparing yourself to others.

I’ve always been one to compare myself to others but as times have gone on and I’ve become older I’ve realised that comparing yourself to others is toxic and does nothing good for you at all. I’ve learnt that each person is individual and unique.

8. Live life to the fullest because it’s too short.

Life is short as sad this going to sound it’s true, no one knows when their time is going to end because life is cruel. So instead of living life to fullest do the most that you can because otherwise, you will only wonder why you didn’t in the first place lives too precious.

9. Ask for help

Don’t be afraid to ask for help it isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of strength.

10. Grades do not mean everything.

Throughout my life, I have been told that ‘grades are everything’ I’m not saying that they do not matter but they aren’t everything. Your personality and character mean more than a number or letter by your name that’s a huge lesson I have learnt this year !!

I was going to do 19 lessons I have learnt but I thought the blog post would end up very long if I include that many so instead I’m going to include 10 so half of the amount.

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What lessons have you learnt what would be valuable for others ?

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